Tounge Tied | The Power of Words

blogWhat power does a word have? Figuratively speaking, it’s just a little sentence in the realm of an entire lifetime of dialogue… Biblically broken down, it happens to be the opposite extreme, dealing with the power of life and death. Your tongue is a true depiction of your heart. What are you saying? Who are you speaking to? And what do you sound like?

This oral anomaly effects more than just the person it’s spit at. These words impact who you are and who you become. A hurled insult, an impressive slur, a back-handed compliment, a bit of sarcasm… these words impact a life, and not just the one that’s being attacked.

You have a voice in so many lives. Are you the voice of life or death? Do you celebrate and love and bring joy and peace; do you discourage and tear down and bring the juiciest gossip to the verbal potluck? Are you tongue tied by negativity or grace? Check the root of your perfectly potted discussion and find out what makes it so plush. If your glam is produced in cracked, dry soil, you’ll never produce the harvest you hope for. Re soil, repot, and water your seeds to eat the fruit of love, humility, kindness, joy, peace, hope, and e v e r y  t h I n g good that life can produce.blog2blog1

You have the capability to change this world, one word at a time. This might sound outlandishly impossible, but changing your world is the beginning of changing our world. You truly are a ripple effect… as a friend, a child, a coworker, a spouse, a parent, a . complete . stranger. There’s something that lasts about the words you speak: your reputation. It goes blog4before you, and stays well after you are gone. What do you want to be remembered by?

I am convinced that your relationships are determined by your words. Do you want a better marriage, a promotion, etc? Just follow the golden rule, and don’t be hater… that’s the secret weapon. Be the constant reminder of something sweet. You can represent truth and mercy, because you get to choose what you say. Fill your mind with the Word and hide it in your heart, and then when you open your mouth, that’s exactly what will come out.

xx meg

How Our Summer Is Going To Be NEW & EXCITING!

summer1Los Angeles, CAlif: This Mommy is ON. A. MISSION.

1. I’M SHOPPING DOUBLE. You heard me. I’m buying 2, 3, 4 of EVERYTHING. May I also recommend a secondary, fully-packed diaper bag complete with non-perishable snacks + extra everything (a wrapped gift in the car also never hurt).
Example: We have at least 4 open containers of sunscreen (1 for beach bag, diaper bag, car, and house).

Objection: Too expensive.

My Response: No way – this will SAVE you money! Imagine buying sunscreen at the Zoo gift shop (hello 1/4 oz. bottle for $12). When you’re desperate, you certainly can’t be a brand snob (like I am- Mary Kay sunscreens are the BEST). And seriously, if you can’t get through 4 bottles before they expire, you and your LO’s need to get out more. Or use more sunscreen. Just saying.

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2. CALL ME CHRISTA-COLUMBA MOMMY. Discover new places! Your city’s Red Tricycle is the best place to start. What’s happening near you, that you’re missing out on?

Our recent discoveries:
- Splash Parks (L.A has dozens)
- Mommy nail places + spas
- Pamper & Play (in L.A.)

Objection: “I can barely go to the grocery store with my kids, it’s just all so hard.”

My Response: Seriously, you guys? I am SO TIRED of hearing moms who have been tricked into thinking they can’t do things that they CAN. C’mon, be adventurous! What happened to that 22-year-old whose motto was, “I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me!” — Time for her to make a permanent come-back.

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3. SING WITH ME: Summer lovin’ had me a blast… MORE DATE NIGHTS!!

His benefit: He’s reminded of how good you look dolled up as his arm candy.
Her benefit: Sanity. Returning. Slowly…

Objection: If babysitting costs are an issue, trade babysitting with your bff’s. If you’re really desperate… I know a couple who checks their kids into the church nursery/ Sunday School and once a month goes to Starbucks next door (no joke). Whatever it takes, your kids benefit when their parents are getting enough mommy-daddy-time.

For our super-observant readers: Yes, most of my blog articles say something about breaking free from kids. I swear this is not a secret cry for help. I just enjoy my breaks!

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4. MAKE A GOAL POSTER. Make your goal your Summer Theme and display it where you’ll see it all the time (“This Summer, Jack is Signing on 35 New Clients!”). Pick your goals as a couple/ as a family, narrow your focus, and be proactive. Be your spouse and children’s strongest believer and biggest encourager!

 

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Beyond Super Cute Cocktail Dresses: 3 Mommy Lessons of the 1950s

1950s blog3 Moms of the 1950s. Remembered for their car seat safety? Doubtful. Responsible for the mompreneur movement? Not so much…  What Google would like you to believe is that this decade was full of nothing but limitations for moms- and women who were expected to become wives and moms.

Ok so I won’t jump in my time machine quite yet.

But… There are some life lessons to be learned from these women of 60 years ago!

1.  Challenges in Parenthood… Inevitable!*

 *Unless you were blessed with perfect children like we were… LOL!!!

1950s blog4They knew it back then, but did we not get the message? Or were we not listening? Do we think having the Internet is going to magically transform parenthood into a cakewalk?  Of course, we can now share tips instantly (thank you, Pinterest) to make our lives easy-ER. I can’t even count how many doctor trips WebMD has saved us. But if we can get it out of our head that parenting is meant to be “the easiest thing in the world”… then I think we’ll all approach this more realistically and not be surprised when the rubber hits the road.

2.  Life Does Not Need to Be SOO Complicated

1950s blog2Life used to be- figuratively and literally- more black & white. You’ve heard of the famous Mary Kay Ash slogan “K.I.S.S.”? Keep It Simple Sweetie (Mary Kay was known for saying this, although I couldn’t find its exact origin). When you are juggling your ping pong balls (wife hat, mommy hat… serious disciplinarian mom, fun mom…) remember to keep things as simple as possible. When in doubt, go with your maternal instincts. God built those inside you for a reason!

3. Pre-dating the ‘50s… Depressed Moms Got Time Away!

momvacationOk yes I’m referring to psychiatric centers. HAHAHA!!! Ok fiiiine that may be a liiiitttttle extreme for the majority of us and I’m not proposing we bring these back (although admit it, there are some days you’d jump at the chance), but my question is this: when’s the last time you escaped for a day sans-kiddies? Or took yourself out to coffee without someone begging for a cake pop? If you hesitated, then it’s time girl. Go forth and enjoy!

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jessWhat do you do when your bestie suddenly becomes your enemy? Broken friendships are almost thee worst to get over. Typically, women love to pour all that we are into a friendship, and then if it falls apart, a piece of us is in shambles. Most of us have experienced the loss of a bff. No one expects it, but if happens, I believe there is a lesson just waiting to be taught to each of us.     [mah main girl, Jess!->]

It could be a man, a bad habit, a change in behavior… regardless of the reason, it still hurts both women just as much. Whether she is to blame, or it’s all on you, you truly can be scarred for a lifetime – IF you aren’t careful. All relationships should have requirements; each person in your life should understand why they are there, and exactly who they are to you. Therefore, I hope the following standards help eliminate the possibility of friendship disaster, and keep your girlfriends on speed dial for both outfit consultation and pitty party (of 2), alike.

linds1. do you | Love above all else. Judgment should be laid aside, and both of you should decide that you will choose to believe the best about the other.

[my fran fahevah, Linds!]

2. true dat | No matter what, y’all decide the truth is the most important part of your friendship. Transparency will transform you both, AND make you better.

3. ride or die | Commitment is essential. This may be the most difficult to determine, but possibly the most rewarding piece of all your efforts, because you go through it all together!

4. goody.goody | Right choices make all the difference. Decide to succeed and live life to the fullest, always doing good.

5. sealed! | Keeping secrets and killing gossip = friendship. Be loyal and kind in every situation.

If you have never experienced the love, truth, commitment, righteousness, kindness, and loyalty a friendship can offer… you’ve never experienced the very reason we were called into community with one another. I urge you to find the girl that not only shares your affinity for Madden and Anthro, but shares your heart in living a life that’s worth blushing over, no matter the effort it takes.

lemo“There are people who have money and people who are rich.”
- Coco Chanel

That babe has it right! Allow whatever fragrance you wear to be more than just a scent lingering in your nasal… allow it to be the aroma of your lifestyle, and rep your bff well!

[my very best! in life & my last, but not least, ride or die in life... pictured above, my husby, LM!]

xx meg

The “Growing Pains” of Pregnancy

There’s nothing quite like the moment you hear, “WOW!! You must be ready to pop any day now!!!” from a complete stranger….. and you’re seven months along. At that point, it seems you might want to pop some thing, or some one, else!pregnancy

Be confident with your bump… After all, you are growing a tiny person in there- such a beautiful miracle!

“Being comfortable in your skin” takes on a whole new meaning in pregnancy. I say things to my husband like… “Oh my goodness! My belly is getting so big!” And he replies with, “yeah! You’re pregnant!” But it’s so different when your body is the one morphing into a giant. The best way I could explain it to my husby is by comparing myself to a Transformer… And I know he’d be too swept up in wishing he were one to really understand the metaphor. SO… We, subdivisions, need to support one another… because that’s what neighborhoods do. ;)

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got a goody… He’s THEE most supportive, understanding, encouraging and loving man I could ask for. So why is it then when I feel the size of a house- the weight of HIS words aren’t good enough? Because it’s a constant game of comparison with other women and their bodies. Unfortunately, we find a lot of our self worth in our size. #barbietruama

But who you are has nothing to do with your pant size. Who you are is your heart. What are you sewing into it? How are you working out your heart? Did you know your heart is a muscle?!!! Whether physical activity is a part of your weekly routine or not, we can all agree that it should be. Your heart WILL change your mind. preg2

Work that muscle. Exercise it by reading materials you are passionate about. Pieces that motivate you, make you stronger, give you confidence and hope. I’ll drop you off with a bit before I bow out. Allow wisdom to come into your life, soak into your heart, and knowledge will be a sweet aroma in your soul, discretion will keep you, and deliver you from going down the wrong path, and from associating with the wrong people.

xx