Spring Cleaning: Forgiveness Edition

IMG_0152Forgive and forget? That phrase is a huge pill to swallow. How is this possible to erase the memory that left the biggest scar on your heart? It’s not an overnight cleanse, but it’s an emotional and spiritual… and even in some cases, a physical cleanse that is necessary for your health. Let me help you say good bye to the ugly, and hello to the beautiful… Bring a little peace in your life!

It’s been years ago… she hurt you really bad. Your friendship can not be mended.

He broke your heart… left you for another woman. He took the very understanding of love from you.

You were abandoned… given up to live a life of freedom. Your parents will never know the gift of you.

There is no methodology to bitterness and brokenness… it simply just is. It’s a sore, a relentless pain that takes your breath away, makes you sick to your stomach, and makes you cringe at the thought of seeing this person/these people. Unforgiveness is bondage… invisible handcuffs and ankle chains that bind you to possibly the worst memory you have ever known. As soon as your mind wanders there… you can’t come back without thoughts of anger, grief, and hatred.

How can you ever forgive the one who touched you or maybe your child?

The one who told you, you would never be anything, you weren’t worth anything, and there was really no reason for you to live?

The one who makes you feel like an invalid in their very presence, as if you really aren’t a person at all.

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You can’t do this alone. There is One who can erase your pain, erase your sorrow, and literally turn your misery into a life-changing memory.

Each of the above examples have personally scarred my life. There are ways to allow the only One, Jesus Christ, to take them away. After prayer and a true sense of turning away from the issue, the pain, and after owning up to ANY and ALL responsibility you may have or may NOT have in the situation, there is a step more that you can take. Give them something tangible that means something to you. (I know, right?! Super tough!!) Something that only you would give to someone special to you. Make them special. Because Jesus made each one of us special. There is a reason you are reading this now and have dealt with what you have. Let your biggest defeat in life, actually become THEE biggest defeat over your life. Conquer with love.

A salute on this Memorial Day… to all those who fought for your freedom; don’t live in bondage any longer. There is peace.

xx meg

 

 

Spring Cleaning | *How To Mend InLaw Issues*

There’s always that one person in your family… You know the one. The unashamedly, professing modern Einstein, the one that’s so fetch they only have about a second to spare even for their own time zone, the microcosm of Jerry Springer’s prime, the self-appointed hierarchy, etc.blog2
With that being said… I have a category too, and although I strive to be the loving servant… I’m sure my fam has a very different description for me. People mean well …most of the time… and even if we believe they must have some genetic mutation or a general case of our current #selfie society, the fact is… Their perception of them is what they want to expose.
It is my goal in life to study people. People that I love, and especially people I don’t care to love, but that I should.
Let’s chat in laws: It might be that mother in law of yours. She has advice at every whim of your baby, every move you make and how it SHOULD be made, she’s always there with her Superman cape in toe, etc. and although you’d like to remind her of a few things, ie: Superman is a fictional character, so hang up the cape, already!!… You just can’t. It comes out wrong or you bottle it in… Or you cram it all down your husby’s throat.
Or maybe it’s your sister in law that always has her hair in every place, smells like a cloud sent from Heaven, and walks in a dust of glitter; while she leaves the worst unscented aroma ever, not lifting a finger because her mani might chip. Or the drama, drama, DRAMA king in your fam, who always has to one up your story with his UNbelievable one (for good reason), or possibly the BOSS, that waltzes around with every “answer”, but never a real solution…
It’s like these people just lurk around you. And you’re stuck with them. There’s better news.
In life, families sweep things under the rug. They stash their dirty little secrets in the drawer, and they have an entire wardrobe of unmentionables flousing around in secrecy. But, unfortunately, you always see their “secret stash” and the risky little pieces in their armoire.blog
I suggest we Spring clean; mend the unravelling issues, and hang the clothes out to dry! Don’t hear me wrong… It’s not a chore list for today. This will take time, patience, and love… Determine to solely focus on the good qualities they obtain. Pray for opportunities to highlight their strengths. Serve them with joy. Allow your perspective to change so love can take over, and it TRUUUULY can cover a multitude of sin. Hal.le.lu.jah!!

*I’d love to hear some of your in law stories… This is a super quick version of an entire novel, so please comment below or email me at mrs.ljcrawford@gmail.com to discuss the issues of life. There is hope and peace waiting!!*

Mom Against Mom

Her: The mom in the store that has two kids orangoutang-ing off the cart, one (at the very least) is throwing the ultimate tantrum, while the other is constantly tapping his mom over and over, going ape-cray for her attention. While mother is wild for shopping, and shopping alone. Your response: Dear Lord, lady! Control them… You have TWO. How hard can that be?! I know what would take care of that awful behavior! I’ll never…..

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We seem to always have the more appropriate response to discipline, to a better cooking lifestyle, healthier physique, to a more effective education, a well-balanced spiritual and emotional developmental plan… and so on.

And then…

The plight of the third born. You welcome your third blessing that seems to be a little more “active” than the others. It’s as if one day, someone slaps on a perspective lens, and you see her point of view. You see her in you. You get it.

It doesn’t mean you still don’t believe most of what you do is the right way of doing it, because I’d hope we all do; it’s a part of caring for our children the best way we possibly can, but it means… You finally let “her” off the hook. [My superheroin->]blog3

My personal definition of who we are.
mom: one that possesses superheroin powers, class, sass, and the ability to love tiny monsters.
With that being stated, it’s obvious to see that we are all in the same situation, taming a little beast, and doing the best we can, while masking our own internal monster.

Let’s learn to love one another a little better. Recognizing it isn’t mom against mom, but a sort of union where we can work together for the common good of our next generation. So the next time you see me, my three under four, and oh, so preg bump… Instead of passing me bye, let’s send a caring smile of “I so get it”, or a precious look of approval, or simply a warm word of “Keep going, mama! We can do this.” And offer a gentle exit. We all need to be let off the hook every now and again.

I’m for you. You can do this. There’s no better mom for your child than you. We all feel crazy sometimes. We all get overwhelmed. We all have the holy terror moments. Let’s learn to love one another, and meet each other where we are. Happy belated Mother’s Day to the younique job that only YOU can do!

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xx meg

What my husband has taught me: enjoy your kids and THEN clean up.

IMG_9985[1]Maybe dads have it right.

Have you seen the Kitchenaid slogan “Cook Like You Don’t Have To Clean”? This IS how men cook: They’re not afraid to use every spoon, bowl, and pan you own in preparation for one meal. It’s also how men live in their house. And… It’s how they play with their children.

If you watched me play with my 1 and 2-year-old sons, you’d see me sneaking toys back to their boxes as soon as (I hoped) they were done playing with them. My husband, however, isn’t afraid to let them empty every toy vessel in their room. Then he’ll chase them into their high chairs and go back and tidy while they’re stuffing their faces full of… well, daddy dietary choices and their perception of appropriate baby feeding times will be saved for another blog.

Since we became parents almost 2 ½ years ago, I have watched my husband in action.

Messy RoomAnd this is what I’ve learned:

1. IT IS OKAY- IF NOT PREFERENTIAL- TO MAKE A MESS! You’ve seen the Pinterest now-cliché “Please excuse the mess, the children are busy making memories”? I used to wince when the kids splashed water on my top while I gave them a bath… Now, I’m grateful if there is less than an inch of water flooding the bathroom floor.

The change came when I realized we weren’t going to raise an Olympic swimmer if Mommy modeled disgust at a few droplets of water.

2. A BROKEN ITEM CAN TEACH MORE LESSONS.

The Mom Scenario:

Mom sees potential hazard and moves it. End of story.

The Dad Scenario:

Dad never dreamed his 2-year-old would throw the snowglobe on the ground that was just handed to him. But in the 15 minutes that follow the breakage, 2-year-old will learn: cleaning, responsibility, and how to say, “I’m Sorry.” Dad and son will also dissect the inside of the globe (science lesson!), and if  he cut his finger–medical lesson! Dad will probably whisper, “Son, you are far more important than any material object” (lesson in FATHERLY LOVE!).

3. CLEAN-UP IS QUICKER SANS-KIDLETTES.

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If possible, clean around your baby’s sleep schedule. But in case they’re awake, it’s time to get out the pillows, blankets, and a chair for some serious FORT TIME.

I believe GOOOD parenting is not determined by whether you compiled the most perfect baby shower registry, whether you were a breastfeeding mom, or know all the lyrics to “Rock a Bye Baby.” Good parents spend their time LOVING their kids and their spouse.

And GREAT parents… Are ready to get their hands messy.