Simon Says: Size her up.

It’s a game we all play. Catty women, all with the same agenda… to be the “Sweetest, prettiest, funniest, smartest…” AKA: the one we love to hate, yet totally hate to love. It begins early: the girl with the 15 Barbies, versus your measly 14… follows you into high school: the girl with the perfect everything, including your “future husband”… carries on upon marriage: you have the man of your dreams, but why isn’t he as romantic as her husband? Just when you think you have talked yourself out of insanity, and claim to have a handle on it …….my

……. You get pregnant.

What should be one of the most beautiful moments of your life, can have you going “Cinderella’s ugly step sisters, quick! “I want a girl, but I’m having a boy. She’s having a girl! Bows and dresses… And I get -boy clothes!- Ugh.”

It is completely normal. We want what we don’t have, and pretend our lives are perfect, when truthfully, we want more. A different spouse, more money, better body, sweeter kids…. The list is infinite.

Prime example: About a year after we had our first born, our son Kai, we went to visit our friends who also have a son about the same age. This boy had every toy you could imagine. My eyes felt wet and my heart extremely heavy. I couldn’t give that to my son. I fail.kai2

Example two: After having both Kai, and next Amiyah, I found out that a once close friend who chose to de-friend us (and not the social media kind…just the social) for bogus reasons, was now birthing their second child. Then my child’s play began again… But they have more money than us… And now, their life is better because they have what we have. I fail.

Example three: We were visiting close friends of ours in their beautiful, newly built home, when my three year old son says… “I wike this house. It’s soooo cool!!” We can’t give him that. Our house isn’t as cool. I fail.

“My baby won’t stop crying; her baby is smiling and fully decorated with ‘the best baby ever created’ pendants. My toddler won’t stop peeing his pants; her toddler won’t stop showing mine up on his sticker chart. My child can NOT seem to count to 20; her child is going to skip preschool, graduate from high school early, and take the fast track to become the first female president. I have three kids and I look like it; she has five kids and has a 20 year old’s figure. My husband got laid off due to the economy; her husband got promoted and took a pay increase during the recession. I’m convinced; I fail.beach2

Does it ever end? Do we ever stop “failing” and start praising? God has extended His mercy for me, and for you. Go to your mirror and recite this. …He gave me these words for us to share.

>>I am fearfully and wonderfully made and there is no fault or defect in me, because I am made in God’s image. I am beautiful because He knit me in my mother’s womb, and knew me before I was even thought of. I am special because He knows the plans He has for me, to prosper me, to give me hope, and a future without harm. I have been healed by His stripes, and I am whole. I am the crown on my husband’s head and he can trust me. I submit myself to my husband as unto the Lord. I am beautiful and strong, and I am love to every person I come in contact with. I fear no evil because greater is He who lives in me than he who lives in this world. I can overcome all things because the same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives inside of me. My presence changes circumstances and my tongue is kind. I am wise and people listen because I have something worthwhile to say. People are drawn to me because of Jesus Who lives in me. I am the temple of Christ, His bride, His love, a daughter of the Only King, and no one and no thing can stop my purpose on this Earth: to love, to serve, to live a righteous life in the name of Jesus Christ.<<kai

Don’t live life in constant Simon Says mode. You are one of a kind; not one is like you. Your kids aren’t worse…they’re just kids. Be consistent, encourage, love, and discipline them. You aren’t uglier….most of what you compare yourself to, is fake. You aren’t stupider…see I said stupider, and looked it up to find out if it’s truly a word :) …I’m still unsure. You aren’t a worse Christian, wife, mother, friend, etc. Being a great you takes work, but you can be exactly who He has created you to be! Breathe in, breathe out. You don’t have to do this life solo. Look up to Him in prayer, reach out to a mentor, and start inward to be the change that needs to be made in your life. You are beautiful.

with love, the IMperfect wife & momma meg. [but, I have a gorgeous, perfect FOR me husband. s/h to my guy!]meandyou

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    Tiheasha Beasley Jun 3 2013 - 8:09 pm Reply

    Wow! This is an amazing article. Thank you for the encouragement/reminder :-) As a new mommy I can so relate to this…and I am sure I will have more “I Fail” moments and when I do I will be reading this article again lol. Keep up the amazing job!


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      MeganCrawford Apr 13 2014 - 7:29 pm Reply

      Awww!! Tiheasha! SO blessed by your encouragement… So sorry I just now found this. I’ll be sure to keep up with you in the future. Thanks so much for reading!! xx

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    Kiana Szostak Jun 7 2013 - 7:03 am Reply

    “I fail” I think that feeling is the story of many of our lives! I love you for this article and for being so honest. It came right on time for me. this was truly encouraging and its a constant reminder of how much God truly loves us and all our imperfections!

    Thanks for speaking your truth, you have know idea how much you encourage others through your articles and your love for Christ!

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      MeganCrawford Apr 13 2014 - 7:31 pm Reply

      Kiana!! Posts like this keep me so empowered. I appreciate your kind words. Forgive me for missing this!! I’ll be more diligent in the future!! LOVE YOU! And if we aren’t real with one another… who WILL be?! xx

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    Tiffany Carey Jun 9 2013 - 4:24 pm Reply

    Beautifully said! Just what I needed to hear! As well as many others,
    I’m sure! Your an amazing writer :) thank you for sharing

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      MeganCrawford Apr 13 2014 - 7:32 pm Reply

      Tiffany! Thanks so much your encouragement. Please forgive me for not replying sooner.. not sure how I missed these precious words!! xx Thanks so much!

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    Lindsey Libunao Jul 29 2013 - 6:08 am Reply

    Beautiful Meg!

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